Q: I have been noticing that my mind is so obsessive! It keeps obsessing about the same things. Is there a psychological or meditation technique that you can recommend?
A: The very nature of the mind is that it is repetitive. It is like a broken record player that keeps playing the same songs over and over again. Besides the fact that mind has its own self-interest "at heart," one of the reasons why mind is so obsessive is that things left undone will continue to "haunt" it. The act, you see, must be finished for mind to release this energy.
Try this psychological/meditation technique just before you go to sleep:
---> Go Back in Time on all the events that happened to you today. Start with what just happened before you went to bed and continue to go backward in time. As you do so, finish or put an end to any act that was left undone. It could be something that you wanted to say but didn't (so in your mind's eye, see that you DID say what you wanted). It could be that someone made you feel guilty and you didn't want to feel that way and you are still feeling that way now. Finish the act by rewriting what the person said or change your response so that the end result is a positive one. It could be that you were late and just the fact that you didn't brush your teeth, you felt so dirty inside. Go back and brush your teeth as if you did have time and tell yourself that you are clean whether teeth get brushed or not.
This technique of going back in time and finishing the acts or "rewriting" your day the way that you want to live your life means that you are changing your thoughts, emotions and actions to have a more desirable, positive and fulfilling life. Doing this technique, you should also see that your mind will start to be less obsessed about things DURING the day. It will free up a lot of wasted energy such that this energy will now be transformed to living your life the way you want.
You can do this technique every night before you go to sleep.
As an experiment, after doing this for several days or weeks, skip one day (do NOT do this technique) and see how you think/feel/act the next day. Like all meditation techniques, the purpose of this technique is to bring your awareness to how you are living your life, to the thoughts, emotions and behavioral patterns that you are allowing to happen in your life.
To your continued success on your journey,
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